Video Games: What to Do If a Child They Replaced Reality?

Well, here came the day when the beloved child jumps for joy to the ceiling – its cherished dream has come true, he now has a computer! Instantly cast all of their household affairs and immersed in a friendly communication with the miracle technology: who will get acquainted, and who seriously “poyuzerit and play. In general, the noise is barely be heard Mom’s warning, “Only half an hour,” “Do not slouch, do not fight, if your eyes are red – Stop and take!” …



Months pass, second, and parents are beginning to realize that from Chad, in general, there was only back at the monitor. And when you try to pull this back from the computer they come across first in the imploring eyes reddened eyes, and assurances that all lessons are done, and on the street rain, etc. Well, the child did not die of hunger, food must bring into the room and put the front of the monitor, and sometimes even to breathe oxygen – to open the window.



Will be some time, and wise parents simply declare war: captured by the wire (child find other, and very quickly), applied to intentional harm Technology (pseudo-user will fix in a minute), and put passwords (even cause the smile of the young hacker). But it did not help. At some point, parents are still lowered his arms, and swell the ranks of moms and dads, who were defeated fashionable fad of today’s children. But parents enthusiasts will go further: talk to a psychologist, will buy the book titled “How to pull a child from a computer, to undertake the mental conversation with Chad and drag it to the campaign and the joint family sortie. Sometimes it really helps.



But in fact, according to child psychologists, we must not try to follow the popular template “A child on a computer – bad parents”, “Computer – evil,” “In the fight for child of all methods are good,” etc., but soberly and deliberately analyze the root of the problem. And then it will solve all problems. Thus, the reasons for the excessive (in the opinion of the parents) may be dragging your computer as follows:

1. Fashion trends among their peers.



And in this case the interest of the child completely ban is not necessary, because to be today in their team, peers, the boy just to boast that it has been a difficult tenth the level in the game-shooter, or wrung some of the hero-warrior. Especially because today’s children who have homes have wired internet, have the opportunity to play with each other online. Than not “voynushki” in the yard, albeit peculiar?



2. Personal psychological problems of the child.



When a family cries, scandals, when the child is constantly imposed unjustified claims, or he just bad and uncomfortable at home – it is much easier and faster to plunge into the illusory world of computer games. And no wonder, because this is just a slob at home, he and mediocrity, and in the game, he was – a hero, a fighter, he is respected, he had something he could achieve. And so it was difficult for him to return later in the inhospitable reality …



In this case, you may need assistance of an experienced psychologist. And not just the child. By making the atmosphere at home can help her daze to become less dependent on the games and even a little real love.



3. Nesobrannost child, inability to control time.



In that case, a teenager should simply agree to: “Come on, ten minutes – on and off”, “Your time for the game – from 14 to 17 and beyond – the real, want it or not.” Even the most disorganized child gradually becomes accustomed to the rules if they are competent to make and not break.



And finally, it is important to note that in themselves these computer games are not a hundred percent evil (except for explicit violent games). It is in play, children learn to overcome obstacles, learn to play, develops an excellent strategic thinking and even finds a new companions. But problems such as hunched back, and lack of friends in real life are solved easily by setting the parent of simple rules and a full house atmosphere of love and taking his child as he is.

Friday, July 8, 2011 by For Her · 0